how to deal with solid weton
Weton Padu is a unique phenomenon recognized in Javanese culture. In this tradition, couples who have a weton or day of birth that are considered “inconsistent” can trigger conflicts in the household. Although this belief is not part of modern science, many Javanese people still believe in it as part of the culture and heritage of their ancestors. This article will discuss how to deal with weton solids, guidelines for maintaining harmony, and solutions that can be taken by partners to reduce the impact of conflicts caused by weton differences.
What is solid weton?
In Javanese calculations, every day has a weton value consisting of a matter of days (Monday to Sunday) and a market (Legi, Pahing, Pon, Wage, and Kliwon). A solid weton occurs when a pair has a combination of weton that “collision” or does not match. For example, in Javanese culture, couples who have wetons that are considered less harmonious are believed to cause debate and disharmony in their households.
This calculation is widely practiced among Javanese people, and is usually considered as one way to ensure compatibility in long-term relationships.
Determine the weton pair
To find out whether the couple has the appropriate weton or not, first of all, an accurate calculation is needed. Weton calculations usually involve Neptu’s calculations, namely the sum of the value of a person’s day and market. Every day and the market has its own value which is added up to produce Neptu.
Here is the value of Weton Day and Market:
| Day | Value | Market | Value |
|---|---|---|---|
| Week | 5 | Legi | 5 |
| Monday | 4 | Pahing | 9 |
| Tuesday | 3 | Pound | 7 |
| Lung | 7 | Wage | 4 |
| Shirt | 8 | Kliwon | 8 |
| Friday | 6 | ||
| Saturday | 9 |
By adding up the value of the day and market of each pair, we can find out whether their neptu is compatible or not.
Kalkulator Weton Pasangan
| number of pairs of neptu | Meaning of Weton |
|---|---|
| 1 | Pegat |
| 2 | Queen |
| 3 | Mate |
| 4 | TOPO |
| 5 | Tinari |
| 6 | Solid |
| 7 | Sujanan |
| 8 | Pesthi |
| 9 | Pegat |
| 10 | Queen |
| 11 | Mate |
| 12 | TOPO |
| 13 | Tinari |
| 14 | Solid |
| 15 | Sujanan |
| 16 | Pesthi |
| 17 | Pegat |
| 18 | Queen |
| 19 | Mate |
| 20 | TOPO |
| 21 | Tinari |
| 22 | Solid |
| 23 | Sujanan |
| 24 | Pesthi |
| 25 | Pegat |
| 26 | Queen |
| 27 | Mate |
| 28 | TOPO |
| 29 | Tinari |
| 30 | Solid |
| 31 | Sujanan |
| 32 | Pesthi |
| 33 | Pegat |
| 34 | Queen |
| 35 | Mate |
| 36 | TOPO |
Description of the meaning of weton:
- Pegat: indicates the potential for separation or big problems in the relationship.
- Queen: a noble and respected relationship, usually full of authority.
- Mate: signifies a matching pair that matches each other.
- TOPO: simple relationship, more challenges but strong.
- Tinari: Couples whose lives are happy and often get blessings.
- Solid: There is a potential for conflict or dispute in the relationship.
- Sujanan: Vulnerable to external interference, such as third parties.
- Pesthi: A quiet and harmonious domestic life.
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Signs of a partner experiencing solid weton
Some signs that may indicate the presence of solid weton in the household include:
- There are frequent debates: Couples often argue even for trivial little things. This usually occurs for no apparent reason and can affect harmony.
- discomfort: Often, one or both of them feel uncomfortable in front of a partner, as if there is tension that is difficult to explain.
- Lack of emotional support: Couples with solid weton sometimes have difficulty in providing balanced emotional support.
how to overcome solid weton to create harmony
If you or your partner have an inappropriate weton calculation, here are some ways to overcome and maintain harmony:
1. Improve understanding and communication
The most effective way to overcome differences is to improve communication and understand each other. Although weton solid is believed to cause conflict, this can be minimized by building good and honest communication. Every couple needs to open up and understand their feelings.
2. Using traditional rituals and traditions
Some Javanese still believe that certain rituals can reduce the negative impact of weton solid. For example, doing tradition care or slametan, which is intended to dispose of negative energy in relationships. This ritual is usually carried out in certain months, such as August or September, which in Javanese culture is believed to bring good luck.
3. Strengthen spiritual support
Spiritual support can help overcome disharmony in relationships. Couples can support each other through other religious or spiritual activities, such as praying together, attending religious events, or doing meditation. This aims to strengthen inner peace and reduce anxiety.
4. Maintaining commitment and patience
One of the keys to facing the challenges in marriage is to maintain commitment and patience. When facing conflict, remember the initial commitment to be together and be patient with differences. With patience, you can more easily face differences without having to trigger a big debate.
Making agreements and constraints
Couples who have solid weton can try to make agreements or boundaries so they are not easily carried away by emotions. This agreement can be a limitation in terms of important decision making or division of roles in the household.
Case Study: Couple Experience with Weton Padu
For example, there is a couple named Budi and Sari (pseudonym) who have different wetons and experience tension at the beginning of their marriage. Budi has a Tuesday pound weton with Neptu 10, while Sari has a Saturday leg with Neptu 14. They find it often difficult to reach an agreement in terms of family finances.
However, after going through a series of discussions and understanding each other, they managed to find a way to work together. Both begin to pay attention to communication, respect each other’s opinions, and reduce selfishness.
What to do if the conflict continues?
If you feel that conflict continues to occur even though you have tried to improve communication, it is better to seek the help of a counselor or mediator who can help provide a new perspective. A counselor can provide techniques for dealing with conflicts and ways to improve communication skills in relationships.
Managing Weton Padu in a Modern Context
Many modern Javanese people still respect Weton’s calculations as part of the tradition, but are also open to modern approaches to dealing with conflict. Managing relationships in the context of modern culture requires couples to focus not only on traditional calculations, but also rely on psychology and communication science.
comparison of traditional and modern approaches
| traditional approach | Modern approach |
|---|---|
| Ruwatan or slametan rituals | Marriage or psychology counseling |
| Avoid certain activities on special days | Open and honest communication |
| Using spiritual support | mediation and professional support |
| Trusting Weton in Important Decisions | Focus on developing communication skills |
conclusion how to overcome weton solid
Overcoming weton solid requires awareness of the importance of communication, self-control, and openness to various approaches, both traditional and modern. In the midst of a growing cultural dynamic, this belief can remain one way to maintain harmony by respecting the values of ancestral heritage. For those who believe in Weton, respecting tradition while balancing with a modern approach is the key to facing the challenge of Weton Padu.
